Let's get started with Marriage Advice!
If you could give one piece of advice to any married (or soon-to-be married) couple, what would it be?
Work on your relationship together and privately. I made the mistake early in our marriage of telling some female family members what bugged me about Iggy (which really wasn't a big deal, it was mostly how messy he was) and now I feel like I have to defend him all the time to them.
What is an absolute MUST for any marriage/relationship?
Constantly working on your marriage, especially if you marry young. Iggy and I have been in a relationship since we were 16, we obviously don't think the same way or have all the same hobbies or friends as we did then, and we've had to work to grow together and not apart from each other. One thing that we do that is kind of fun is read Christian marriage self-help books together. Okay I read them aloud, but we both grow from it and discuss what we want from our family. We're currently reading "The Family You've Always Wanted" by Gary Chapman.
What is the #1 no-no in a marriage?
Being untrustworthy. My friends and I discussed this one and it feels like our men lie to us about little things to avoid an argument but it upsets us more when we catch them lying about those stupid little things than the actual thing.
What is the biggest lesson you have learned from your marriage?
Be grateful for everything the other person does for you, and not what people think they should do. Someone close to us (immediate family member) would harp on Iggy and privately to me that my ring should be bigger, my band should have diamonds, we should own our own house by now, I don't have enough nice clothes, the kids should dress better, they should each have their own room rather than sharing, etc.
The fact is we have a better marriage than that person, we don't disrespect each other and we haven't had to file for bankruptcy or have credit cards racked up with debt again like that person. So that person can suck it haha.
I love that you guys work hard at growing TOGETHER and not apart. Especially as young parents... this is important! To always be moving in the same direction and have the same GOALS as your spouse... that is the best way to stay on the same page with one another! Thanks for linking up with us again :)
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DeleteI so identified with what you said about husband's hiding something to not upset you and that being worse. I constantly remind my husband to please not do that!
ReplyDeleteright?! my husband sometimes lies and then is like "okay I just lied right now..." lol
DeleteI love that you guys read (or you read aloud) together! What a great way to bond!!
ReplyDeleteI found you through Mommy Brain Mixer!! I absolutely loved this post! Have you ever read 5 love languages by Gary Chapman? it's an awesome book and makes total sense. I read it then asked my husband read it.. i said something to him one day about "dont you know that the book was written by a man?" and he was like "dont tell me that. i dont want to take love advice from a MAN" hahahaha
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I really agree with keeping the little issues in your marriage to yourselves and resolving them privately rather than complaining to others--that's never going to be healthy for the relationship! And Gary Chapman has some really good marriage books. We've recently been reading "Happily Ever After"
ReplyDeleteCommunication in a relationship is such a huge growth element. And I agree..handling situations in the proper manner can save a lot of heartache. Sometimes we say things we don't really mean in the heat of the moment, and you can't really take it back once it said.
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